Dino Sings
My alltime favorite crooner, Dean Martin.
Oh let me go
Let me go
Let me go lover
Let me be, set me free from your spell
You made me weak, cut me deep, I can't sleep lover
I was cursed from the first day I fell
You don't want me
But you want me to go on wanting you
How I pray that you will say that we are through
Please turn me loose
What's the use
Let me go lover
Let me go .....
I think its those lyrics I put in bold that affected me the most. It's been her mantra for several years, yet I could never convince her that that was never true. And it still hurts me to think she continues to believe that. And I'm sure that's what she reminds herself whenever she thinks about possibly coming back.
Oh let me go
Let me go
Let me go lover
Let me be, set me free from your spell
You made me weak, cut me deep, I can't sleep lover
I was cursed from the first day I fell
You don't want me
But you want me to go on wanting you
How I pray that you will say that we are through
Please turn me loose
What's the use
Let me go lover
Let me go .....
I think its those lyrics I put in bold that affected me the most. It's been her mantra for several years, yet I could never convince her that that was never true. And it still hurts me to think she continues to believe that. And I'm sure that's what she reminds herself whenever she thinks about possibly coming back.
posted by do_in_it_2 | 9:28 AM
10 Comments:
crazy as this sounds, i think if you wanted to have her she was yours for the taking. You choose to stay with you wife. So you made your choice.
Not sure what you think is crazy about your comment. I hope it's pretty obvious I'm the one blowing it here. And it hurts double because I feel she doesn't believe how tormented I am from my decision. Why does that matter to me so much?.... I'll cover that in a new post.
The longer she is gone the harder it is to determine if my longing for her is from just missing her, or from feeling I've made the wrong choice.
from the "other woman" side, I always wonder if you are so tormented, why do you stay with your wife? I am not saying this in a mean way, I really wonder because I can never understand the longing and pain for something that you could have but choose not to - I feel much like your Sarah - that he only wants me to feel like this for him FOREVER..even though he says no, his actions speak louder - so I am confused - I know you are too - it's hard
I love my wife and kids as much as I love Sara. The big difference here is that I'm also 'in love' with Sara. It's that romantic connection that keeps putting me over the top with her. And no, its not about the sex. That last two times together it was nothing compared to our other times, but the feeling of just being with her was enough of a high.
Sigh. . .
It is painfully clear that you really want something you can't have. You want the wife and kids and Sara on the side. Sara has made it clear that is not what she wants. It is your choice to stay where you are. What you don't seem to accept is that by making that choice you are choosing to not have Sara. With that choice, you really should let her go. If you don't want to let her go, then maybe you've made the wrong choice.
So i understand that your in love with Sara, but you love your wife and kids.So your saying your not in love with your wife? So i have to ask why settle ? If your in love your in love, life is to short to let this slip away ! I never understood how people go through life just settling.
Anon- to make the decision not 'to just settle' is a selfish one if I know it will deeply affect my wife and kids (hers too). keeping this just an 'affair' allows me to spare their feelings. unfortunately at the expense of Sara's. therein lies the torment.
don't you think asking sara to keep this as only an affair is selfish ? Just my opinion, so you stay with your wife to spare her feelings ? do you really think its fare to have them live a lie ? I think if you asked your wife she would say you were in love with her, your clearly not. I say let them go, let her find someone who will be in love with her and you can go on with your life and find someone you can fall in love with.
In the middle of this myself...the "other" woman but also married...glad to have found this site.
I keep asking my lover--whose wife knows about us and has filed for divorce--to let me go but he won't. He insists that someday we will be together and for now my mantra is, We'll see. It's hard all around.
I have just come across your blog so have lots of reading to do.
I am the wife of a man who has had an affair. Can I ask just one question.....why?
Why if you were not happy did you just not walk away? Why would you choose to put somebody through so much pain and torment?
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